Without any doubts, Happiness is the biggest asset of your life which everyone wants keep with themself. If I was to ask you what is your most valuable asset what would your answer be? Your home maybe? Your career, that allows you to earn what you need to sustain your life? May be your will count education and the opportunities it has given you as your most valuable asset, or maybe saving money or Luxury cars, Lamborghini or Tesla Model X? It seems all looks reasonable options right? But if you gave them to me in relation to this question, I would argue that you were wrong. Because the most valuable asset you have is your happiness.
Most people don’t understand where happiness comes from. Some people think happiness comes from their situation, such as having health, wealth, and great relationships. But the truth is that real happiness does not come from our external circumstances, and you can learn to be happy.
Where Does Real Happiness Come From?
Real happiness comes from within. It comes from making wise choices, including choosing to be happy. When our external situation is going well, it might make it easier for us to choose happiness, but it is not the cause of it. You can be happy even when things around you are nothing like you would like them to be. You can be happy when you are in a job you hate, or when your relationship didn’t end the way you wanted it to. And you can become happy when life isn’t falling into the perfect plan you had in place.
Happiness is an internal decision you make. It comes from what you choose to think about, talk about, and how you choose to behave. You can create happiness within your life even when it doesn’t seem like it should be possible. You aren’t happy because the things around you are making you happy, you are happy because you ultimately choose your outlook.
The Unconscious Decision about Happiness
At some point in your life, you unconsciously decided what things would make you happy. Most everyone has something they think will make them happy. A better job? More money? A spouse/partner? A divorce? A vacation?
We all have those things in life we think will make us happier. It might not have been consciously chosen. It might have been a belief you learned from your parents or someone else in your life, but somewhere along the way, you decided that these things are what you need to experience real happiness. But, eventually you discover those things don’t fill you with happiness the way you thought they would, and then you are left deciding what to do next.
What Happens When We Don’t Understand Where Happiness Comes From?
When people don’t understand that they are in control of their own happiness, they search for something to make them happy. This can lead to a lot of problems including:
- Marrying or committing to someone you shouldn’t have.
- Adding a child to an unhappy marriage.
- Taking a job you don’t like to get a big paycheck.
- Sleeping around to fill the void in your life.
- Turning to alcohol and drugs.
- Cheating on your significant other.
- Spending money you don’t have.
As you can see, there are a lot of bad places we can turn when we try to find happiness. Here’s the key-authentic happiness is in your control and can only be found within. There is no person on this planet that can make you happy. There is not enough money in the world that can buy you happiness if you are not right within. You will not be able to consume enough drugs or alcohol to find authentic happiness. All of these things are just cheap fillers for the real deal.